Using the old, “You should have been upfront with me about being trans*” line
1. Don’t assume anyone is cis. it’s rude.
2. If you’re not sleeping with me, it’s none of your business.
3. My gender identity isn’t something I reveal without first establishing a bit of trust because that information in the wrong hands can get me ostracized, harassed, assaulted, raped, and/or killed.
yup.