I’m not comfortable with my baby being alone with my mother. She already used hir as a shield and a weapon during our fight, and even though the baby is pre-verbal, some of the things my mom says to hir are designed to undermine Shai’s trust in me. This isn’t the first time my mother has tried to poison the well with my personal life and chosen family, she did and still tries to do it with my spouse.  I actually think thats why she started the fight in the first place, since shes been making back handed comments about how attached the baby and I are. She’s even “joked” that she must be a bad mother because she did not choose to be this close with me. She assumes that I’m judging her parenting of me based on the way I parent my child. She keeps it limited to “jokes” so she can’t be confronted about it.

But if I cut her out overtly, she will threaten, she will stalk, she will spread poisonous shit around the family social circle, and most of the social circle isn’t close enough to her to smell her bullshit.

As a mama, when do you draw the line at exposing your child to toxic people? Especially when just cutting that person out is not really viable because overtly cutting them out causes a significant upswing in their toxic behaviors?