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zekedms:

rambleonamazon:

swanjolras:

out of all the aspects of millennial-bashing, i think the one that most confuses me is the “millennials all got trophies as a kid, so now they’re all self-centered narcissists” theory

like— kids are pretty smart, y’all. they can see that every kid on the team gets a trophy and is told they did a good job; they can also see that not every kid on the team deserves a trophy, and not everyone did do a good job

the logical conclusion to draw from this is not “i’m great and i deserve praise”— it’s “no matter how mediocre i am, people will still praise me to make me feel better, so i can’t trust any compliments or accolades i receive”

this is not a recipe for overconfidence and narcissism. it is a recipe for constant self-guessing, low self-esteem, and a distrust of one’s own abilities and skills.

where did this whole “ugh millennials think their so-so work is super great” thing even come from it is a goddamn mystery

Holy shit! I have this EXACT problem. They started this assinine tradition of “everyone gets a trophy” (and then accusing us of being spoiled for it) with Gen X, and now I literally hear all compliments as “You suck, but I don’t think you’re strong enough to hear the truth.”

Oh hello, source of Gen X/Y impostor syndrome issues.

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Boundaries v. Orders

polyamorousmisanthrope:

For clarification, boundaries are not about telling the other person what to do, but saying what you will do. 

Ferinstance:  “Because I was frightened by a Ninja Turtle on a Wednesday, green really scares me on that day. You’re not allowed to wear green pajamas on Wednesday” isn’t setting a boundary.  That’s giving an order.

 But…

 ”Because I was frightened by a Ninja Turtle on Wednesday, green really scares me on that day.  I can’t be in a relationship with someone who wears green pajamas on a Wednesday” is setting a boundary.   It’s not giving an order, but is saying what you want in your life.

 It may seem subtle but it’s really HUGE.

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transrants:

socialistexan:

This is what the cast of a Stonewall movie should look like, not what’s being cast.

These are just a few of the beautiful, incredible, unbelievably brave people who made our movement possible. Pay respect to the people who were involved in the Stonewall Riots by boycotting this planned whitewashed film about cis gay men and drag queens because it’s false and disrespectful to the trans women of color and the other extremely important marginalized groups that sparked the movement we have and benefit from today. Don’t allow this movie to further perpetuate the whitewashing of history and lies about who really was fighting in the Stonewall Riots.

transrants:

socialistexan:

This is what the cast of a Stonewall movie should look like, not what’s being cast.

These are just a few of the beautiful, incredible, unbelievably brave people who made our movement possible. Pay respect to the people who were involved in the Stonewall Riots by boycotting this planned whitewashed film about cis gay men and drag queens because it’s false and disrespectful to the trans women of color and the other extremely important marginalized groups that sparked the movement we have and benefit from today. Don’t allow this movie to further perpetuate the whitewashing of history and lies about who really was fighting in the Stonewall Riots.

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metapianycist:

trans men who think that there is a specific anti-trans-man oppression (meaning experienced ONLY by trans men, and wielded against them ONLY by people in the category of non-men)

should basically step on every lego.